tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9520508.post113063955322991627..comments2024-02-03T01:51:20.266-07:00Comments on A Song Not Scored For Breathing: The Truth Shall Set You FreeHopehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02045801745534184703noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9520508.post-22857509852308310002007-02-14T21:18:00.000-07:002007-02-14T21:18:00.000-07:00I don't know if I can put this all in to words her...I don't know if I can put this all in to words here. It is beautiful and amazing that you are working so diligently towards a new beginning for yourself. Whether step four or step one it is a formidible task and you are to be commended. <BR/>Yes, I know, I have stumbled upon a 1+ year old blog post.<BR/>But without reading everything you've written I must comment on the last portion of what you have said in this piece.<BR/>When you write sex or sexual, the deliberate action of excluding one letter from the words is very disconcerting to me.<BR/>I have been shown, in my modest lifetime, that to deny an impulse is a very complicated thing. The 'god of war' (aka the devil, one's own evil inclinations, etc.) does not die... ever. It's existence seems to be mandatory. That is: the bad and the good must balance each other out with many grey areas inbetween. <BR/>My point is that when you say that your husband said that he would rather never touch you again then to have you feel he used you, that is a good thing. <BR/>Don't deny yourself the satisfaction of dominating or being dominated by another person. Being 'used' is a way for them to realize their own shortcomings and reflect. You using someone is the same. In the end they have devoted the life to you, and yours to theirs... there is more to how they feel about you then what they are inclined to do in bed.<BR/>I'm not preaching here but just stating what I've learned. <BR/>I could write a long essay on this, but whether you agree with the above or not please consider this: that exluding a letter from the word sex means a serious degree of ambivalence towards it. You should love yourself, which I'm sure you do, and forgive without persecution. But don't deny.... it just builds such anxiety.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com