Saturday, August 21, 2010

She Is A Keeper

"We should be home early."

That's part of a text message my mother-in-law sent dearest one a few days ago. I laugh every time she sends one. Not laugh at her but laugh out of pure joy. My mother-in-law. She is a keeper. She tried to talk dearest one out of marrying me the night before we got married. The day after the wedding (we eloped, sort of. no family present) she welcomed me as a daughter even though her heart was breaking at the choice her son made. She showed me what grace looked like and I will be forever grateful to her for that.

I was an atheist. I hated Christians. I mocked them mercilessly. To their face. Especially these ones. No radio. No TV. Women wore dresses. No makeup. It was almost like living on a different planet. Archaic. We lived down the road in a little bunk shack with no running water. People still did that then and considered it normal.

Fast forward to 2010. We have a great relationship (thanks be to God. seriously.) A few years ago I was giving her a hug goodbye before she left on a trip. When I whispered in her ear that I hoped she got to at least one book store she whispered back that I knew her better than some of her own children did. We gave each other a squeeze like it was our little secret.

My mother-in-law still has no radio or TV. She'd get kicked out of her church if she did. But she got a cell phone so that she could send text messages to her children and especially her grandchildren. She loves keeping in touch with them this way.

I laugh every time at the idea of my mother-in-law typing out a text message. This is the way her grandchildren communicate and be darned if she is going to miss out. How can you tell relationship is first and foremost in her heart? How can you not love her? She is a keeper. Her birthday is this week. She'll be eighty-one.

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Black Pete said...

Her cell phone secret is safe with me, Hope... :)

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

What a terrific relation! And how amazing that God can push someone past fear of what others will think or do to or about them and just allow them to experience love and honest relationship!

This experience rocks!

Lisa said...

I love this! Love it! And the new blog design is lovely, too!

hugs my friend!

Joy said...

Happy Birthday!!

Daisy said...

wow, 81 and grandma!


Andrew said...

I know that Baba was totally opposed to my mother's choice of a spouse. She was a Ukrainian immigrant with a sharp sense of the worldly.

Still, what will be will be. I had seven siblings and we all chose what we did. Karma? Or choice at birth? Maybe. I don't know.

I am going to have to search out this religious sect in my Province. They sound interesting to me.